In discussion, we actually had a "conflict." There were two people who think conflict as negative thing and two people who think conflict as positive thing.
I was on positive side. I thought conflict is good way to understand what others thinking. However, as I heard the negative side's opinion, I realized that I tend to avoid conflict actually because I do not want to fight against each other.
However, even though some might say I am too kind, I actually was troublemaker somehow. When I was 13 years old, I had someone whom I really hate. Since I did not want to talk with her, I avoid talking or meeting with her even though. Eventually, she noticed my attitude and got angry, and we never talked face to face but expressed our feeling by writing letter or saying bad things to other friends. Suddenly, nevertheless, I realized that fighting we were doing was just stupid. (I don't know why I thought so) I apologized her and since then, I do not prefer to fight against others.
For now, because I do not want to hurt others' feeling, I usually do not say something aggressively. I always hear what people think and try to understand it. Even if I have my own opinion, I say it after the others say theirs so that I am able to find good solution. Moreover, whenever I hear something bad about people from the others, I always do not hear and change topic. I believe those are the smartest way to avoid fighting:)
Finally, I found cute video about conflict resolution, so check it out!
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